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Things such as warmth, affection, emotional safety, co-regulation and soothing, encouragement and validation weren’t there.⁣
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Or they were there one day but the next it was the exact opposite.⁣
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These positive interactions with parents are essential for the healthy development of a child.⁣
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When they’re absent, our health as adults can be impacted in many ways, with depression and anxiety being very common challenges that can show up years or even decades after neglect.⁣
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One of the most difficult things to work through as part of healing the trauma of neglect is to accept that it was real.⁣
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I’ve seen this in myself and many of my clients. The resistance to see our parents as less than perfect.⁣
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Why is the resistance there?⁣
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To protect us from the childlike illusion that our parents were meeting our needs in ways that made us feel loved, seen and worthy.⁣
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In many cases, they weren’t. ⁣
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This can be a heart-breaking realisation for the inner child inside of us who’s tried so hard to hold onto a half-truth or sometimes a lie that was still necessary for them to maintain a sense of self.⁣
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If you experienced childhood neglect of any form – physical, emotional or financial – its impact is real. You’re not making it up.⁣
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Grieve the childhood you deserved but didn’t have and learn to reparent yourself with the help of the world.⁣
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Things CAN get better for you from now on.⁣
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As always, I wholeheartedly believe in your body’s capacity to heal and thrive.⁣
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Because the medicine is within you. ⁣
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Effie ⁣

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