Coined by Sarah Peyton, alarmed aloneness is a state of PANIC/GRIEF that has not been met with CARE. This is a state rarely identified due to westernised ideals of independence and the notion that the regulation of our affective states is an individual responsibility. Yet, as humans we are sociocultural creatures that have an interdependent disposition and require attachment figures in order to survive. Indeed, there is a biological imperative within humans to co-regulate affective states of alarm. Therefore, and particularly when fear or a need for protection arises, we SEEK connection and the assurance of an emotional experience of warmth and contingent communication.
