change - Chele Yntema

Understanding Hate

Posted on July 6, 2018July 16, 2018 by Chele Yntema

Dr Henry Cloud writes that hate is a part of what defines us and as such we need to understand hate. And while at first it seems a notion to be weary of, I resonate with the concept and believe it really does. Dr Cloud goes on to remind us that when we love something, we value it, and so when we love something it gives others a window into our souls. So too...Read More

The Demeaning Clutch of “Should”

Posted on May 12, 2018 by Chele Yntema

Quite often I find myself so fixated on what I “should” have done; what I “should” be doing; or even “it shouldn’t be this way!”; I forget that the sensations or emotions that arise before the judgement of “should” are simply measures of movement or indicators of change. Instead of “should” what would it be like to notice? Notice the sensations of wanting things to be different. Take the time to non-judgementally nurture the feeling...Read More